I have almost fallen off the wagon. But I do have some constant reminders about habits, goals, discipline and so forth that I read or listen to just to try and keep inspiration alive. What I have found is that constant rituals, daily practices and doing small things every day are so important to maintain the discipline momentum.
My last published post was on 5th April. How the hell? I missed two posts! See how easy that was. Its because I firstly allowed my posting day to slide somewhat. As long as it was within the week I had as my goal. Then as long as it was before the Sunday/Monday of the following week. And so, I fell down a slippery path into habit slide!
Now to kick it back into gear.
Are we pursuing becoming a writer or are we just wasting time with futile goals that actually don’t mean anything? It’s a rhetorical question but an important one. I say I would like to be a writer. But I can’t/won’t commit to a writing plan! Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? According to Simon Sinek, you must start with the Why 😊. I shall revisit my “Why” for wanting to write. And so the word Why makes me go back to one of the articles I read during a mindless trip down a rabbit hole on the internet. It’s a problem. But I digress. Anyhow this brings me to Ikigai.
Ikigai is a Japanese word which, according to the article and some other Google references loosely means “a reason for being” or “a reason for jumping out of bed”. Honestly. I like my bed. If I was still into sleep as much as I was when I was younger, I would be bonding with my bed a lot more and my reason for being would be to stay in bed. So the jumping out of bed bit doesn’t quite cut it for me. Anyhoo, I digress once more. But I do like the concept though. And I do like studying places where people are happy, eat well and enjoy active longevity. So yes. There’s a Blue Zone in Japan and Ikigai (amongst other things) is pegged as one of the reasons for people achieving happy and healthy lives.
We are so hell bent on pursuing our passion, happiness and health as if there is this ultimate goal to be achieved and miss so much in the process I have just come off a long weekend. It was the Easter long weekend. Was I focusing on pursuing goals this weekend? Hell no! But if I really think and reflect on this weekend and focus on that other thing that also leads to happiness – gratitude – then I my weekend was filled with the things I love and that makes me happy and practicing gratitude makes one realise that true happiness lies in the process of unfolding as opposed to the achievement of a thing. So, what are the things that make me happy and creates immense opportunities for gratitude?
Food! Yes whatever. Unhealthy obsession blah blah but seriously. I had a most exquisite meal at the restaurant called Dash! But I was with people I enjoy spending time with. Added to that the other meals or happenings from this weekend that were highlights – the times I was most happiest – was about the people I chose to commune with or share the experience with. And therein lies the rub.
We are social creatures by nature. OK introverts this is not a post for you. Let’s make this about me. I am a social creature by nature. I have come to appreciate my own company as I have gotten older. And while solo pursuits are had, and I do enjoy them. My bestest (I don’t care if that’s not a word) times and most memorable ones involve the fellowship created over a good meal, coffee or cake (or all of the above) with other people. Of course, I love some people more and could spend an inordinate of time with them. But I know that everyone else gets energised in different ways so therefore I have learnt to ensure that I have multiple sources of people-energy to tap into. Don’t worry loved ones – I know how much of me you can handle 😉.
So, back to the writing and WHY. I guess writing allows me a platform to tell stories and still connect with people. Becoming a published writer and having more people read what I write – is a way to create even more connection. Also words have the ability to create profound meaning, experiences and again, connection. So my ikigai (or one of them) is about connecting with people. Writing allows me the opportunity to do that in a way that my IRL person might get in the way 😉.
On other habits, goals. My step goals continue but mostly thanks to the Fitbit. I feel like my Fitbit should get a name. I am dabbling with Pai Mei. Kill Bill fans will know who that is. Something/someone tiny but with the ability to kick you a$$ or kick you a$$ into shape. Lets see. I did an average of 9500 steps last week but alas its not a daily amount as on some days I do more and other days less. So it needs to be more evenly and consistently distributed.
Happy Week ahead everyone!